Dealing with results
It is important for the counselor to help children cope up with the disappointment, if at all, related to examination results. Broadly speaking examination results should be treated as a spring board to future achievements and better prospects. Examination results can cause a great deal of anxiety to the students and parents alike. However, a consistent family support system can be of help.
Parents should look out for the following signs:
Physical symptoms, such as sleeping or eating more or less than usual
Mental symptoms, such as loss of concentration and interest
Emotional symptoms such as tears, tantrums, panic attacks
Addictive symptoms, such as excessive drinking or smoking or using pills
Self depreciating comments “I knew I’ll never pass or never do well or…Mohit’s much brighter than me………”
Must Dos for parents:
v Do not nag the child. Be supportive and encouraging.
v Help the child to develop self-discipline, self-direction, self-confidence and a sense of achievement.
v Just good schooling and tuition are not substitutes for emotional cushioning.
v Help the child in maintaining his confidence especially when he seems discouraged by his dropping marks or grades. Do not displace your anxiety on the child.
v The achievement goals should be realistically set according to the child’s capability.
v Praise the child when he does well. Encourage the child’s performance with positive statements like, “well done”, “you can do better”, rather than saying “that was not enough”.
v Do not harp on previous failures or results.
v If achievement expectations are too high it may lead to greater anxiety.
v Humor relieves tension. Be light and humorous with the child.
v Try to gain your child’s confidence and discuss problems. Help to find a solution.
v Exams are not the end of the world.
v Accept that expectation for every one to do well is unrealistic.
v Involve the child in decision making.
v Be aware of the market demands and do not concentrate on traditional courses alone. This will narrow down the options considerably and cause stress.
v Many students do better after school because of maturity and greater focus, course of interest, rise and awareness level and exposure to options.
v Avoid criticizing or comparing the child with others.
v Make the child feel important and loved.
v Listen to your child.
v Take help of a professional counselor in case of a conflict or depression over the result.
It is important for the counselor to help children cope up with the disappointment, if at all, related to examination results. Broadly speaking examination results should be treated as a spring board to future achievements and better prospects. Examination results can cause a great deal of anxiety to the students and parents alike. However, a consistent family support system can be of help.
Parents should look out for the following signs:
Physical symptoms, such as sleeping or eating more or less than usual
Mental symptoms, such as loss of concentration and interest
Emotional symptoms such as tears, tantrums, panic attacks
Addictive symptoms, such as excessive drinking or smoking or using pills
Self depreciating comments “I knew I’ll never pass or never do well or…Mohit’s much brighter than me………”
Must Dos for parents:
v Do not nag the child. Be supportive and encouraging.
v Help the child to develop self-discipline, self-direction, self-confidence and a sense of achievement.
v Just good schooling and tuition are not substitutes for emotional cushioning.
v Help the child in maintaining his confidence especially when he seems discouraged by his dropping marks or grades. Do not displace your anxiety on the child.
v The achievement goals should be realistically set according to the child’s capability.
v Praise the child when he does well. Encourage the child’s performance with positive statements like, “well done”, “you can do better”, rather than saying “that was not enough”.
v Do not harp on previous failures or results.
v If achievement expectations are too high it may lead to greater anxiety.
v Humor relieves tension. Be light and humorous with the child.
v Try to gain your child’s confidence and discuss problems. Help to find a solution.
v Exams are not the end of the world.
v Accept that expectation for every one to do well is unrealistic.
v Involve the child in decision making.
v Be aware of the market demands and do not concentrate on traditional courses alone. This will narrow down the options considerably and cause stress.
v Many students do better after school because of maturity and greater focus, course of interest, rise and awareness level and exposure to options.
v Avoid criticizing or comparing the child with others.
v Make the child feel important and loved.
v Listen to your child.
v Take help of a professional counselor in case of a conflict or depression over the result.
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